do you guys remember that one post about how men feel entitled to take up so much space and women have to deal with a lot less?
This is actually a documented thing. You always see men on the subway or tube or whatever using both armrests while women sit with their arms hunched together into their laps. That’s why I always make a point to take up at least one if not both armrests of the tube so men can be uncomfortable for once.
^ again, for all the people telling me posting this picture is complaining too much.
In my college classes (and high school too) guys were always stretching, sticking fists and elbows in my face, leaning their heads back over my desk, over my work, spreading their legs out, kicking my bag with their dirty shoes. And let’s not pretend they were in other guys’ space as much as they were in women’s.
It’s so true, this happens to me every day on the train. Same with the walking thing, women will weave out of the way whereas men just walk straight and plow down anything in their path. I always end up playing chicken with men on the sidewalk now, because I refuse to move out of their way.
I love playing chicken with dudes who hog the sidewalk. BODY CHECK! Fucking assholes.
“NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS!” FUCK OFF.
“AS A MAN, I THINK THAT…” FUCK OFF.
Men always have the same defensive bullshit to spout every time they get called out on their shit. AND IT IS BORING. They remind me of those toys where you pull a string an they have like 5 phrases they can say. Over and over and over.
same here with playing chicken, its hilarious sometimes because they get this flash of realization in their eyes that says ‘holy shit, she’s NOT going to move/??? what do????’ because THEY ARE SO USED TO EVERYONE MOVING FOR THEM
when i was younger my grandpa drew this on a piece of paper,
and he asked me how i, as the red circle, would get around the two people (black circles) if i was walking down the street.
so of course i came back with
moving out of the way for them as i walked.
he asked me if i thought men would do the same and, at the time, i did because i thought it was just common courtesy. but he told me that men would barrel straight through without giving a shit and that i should do the exact same. because i was the one walking and they were the ones in the way. so that’s exactly what i do.
i find this really fascinating because this actually what defines so-called masculine and feminine traits and gestures. the whole limp-wrist thing? that’s someone decreasing the amount of space they take up by not extending their arm fully. same with crossing one’s legs, how it’s considered more masculine to swing your shoulders when you walk creating a wider gait instead of your hips, how someone who holds their elbows tightly into their torso instead of letting them fall more loosely at their sides is considered feminine.
taking up space is not just a frequent habit of males in our culture, its actually how society thinks masculinity is supposed to be expressed.
This is my answer when people say eating disorders are personal problems and have nothing to do with sexism. Women are literally socialized to take up as little space as possible all day every day.
Probably people are going to jump over me, but I don’t think all the men are like this… at least not in my country, Brazil. And I’m a girl so don’t criticize me saying I’m a man and obviously I’m going to protect the “male kind”.
Just one time actually I had a problem with a man stretching himself on my side on the bus… it was terryfying, he was like rubbing his leg over mine - I think it was proposital - and I thought he was going to rob me or worse.
But seriously here at least men respect their space… at least I never saw the “stretchy-stretchy” happening here.
And I read the post about school… right, so men were stretching their elbows around since as teens, but actually do you know who has bothered me the most when I was at school?
My god, it was… SO annoying, because they didn’t need to stretch elbows or arms or legs to jump over your personal bubble…. they made her long hair do the job!
One move and puff, hair all over my desk (if she’s sitting in the next chair in front of me) and when they like shook their heads the hair turned into a wip and hit my face! It was inferno itself.
So… yeah, again, don’t jump over me, that’s just my opinion about it or better, a curiosity about the habits here. Of course you have your reasons to hate men for doing this because you have seen this personally… but then don’t think all the men in the world do the same shit, you’re taking it too far.